Hotwife challenges and dares can be fun and exciting ways to spice up your relationship, whether you have a beginner hotwife in training or you’re an experienced cuckold couple. As you probably know, a hotwife is a wife (or girlfriend) who sleeps with other men with her husband’s (or boyfriend’s) blessing. From mild to wild, here are 40 hotwife challenges and dares to inspire your adventures.
Tips for Fun and Safe Hotwife Challenges and Dares
Hotwifing is a great way to open a relationship and explore new fantasies and thrills when both partners derive pleasure from it. Of course, it’s a big step for many couples, and it’s absolutely OK to move slowly and dip your toes in the water before you get to full-on having sex with other men. This list of challenges and dares presents ideas for beginners getting started plus ideas for experienced swinger couples, with everything in between – but no matter your experience level, keep the following tips in mind as you embark on your hotwife journey.
1. Ensure All Partners are Comfortable
Never complete any challenges, dares, tasks, or hotwife training that both partners aren’t comfortable with. Hotwife challenges and dares should be fun and exciting for everyone involved, from the man (or cuck) and his hotwife to her boyfriends and bulls (the men she fucks).
Communication is the key to comfort. Openly discuss all ideas before agreeing to them. Don’t just rely on fantasies and lust to guide you – consider potential cons and consequences and make sure everyone is good with possible outcomes. You don’t want jealousy, anger, or hurt feelings to cloud your hotwife experience. Always discuss hotwife experiences before and after, and it might even be helpful (and fun!) to keep a couples journal or diary to document and share your hotwife play.
Hotwife Terms
Stag: The hotwife’s primary partner (often her husband)
Bull: The hotwife’s play partner
Reclaim: When the stag has sex with his hotwife after she has had sex with her bull
2. Stay Safe
Many of these challenges can be completed without sexual intercourse, but for those that include sex, it’s important to stay safe. Men should watch out for their hotwives and never put them in risky situations or alone with unvetted guys.
Make sure you can trust any play partners. It’s often a good idea to get to know potential bulls first. Start with going out to dinner together – man, wife, and bull – and ensure all parties are trustworthy and play safe to avoid unwanted consequences such as diseases or pregnancy.
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3. Keep it Legal
Understand that some men might not want to be approached with hotwife scenarios, and never do anything in public that could compromise your work or legal standing. The last thing you want is to get arrested for something like indecent exposure or public play, so keep your hotwife adventures within the confines of the law.
4. Modify Challenges to Suit Your Lifestyle
These challenges and dares are ideas, and they should be taken as such. We encourage you to modify them as needed to suit your lifestyle, fantasies, and comfort level.
5. Make it a Game
There are many different ways to explore these challenges. You can simply pick a few to try; or, you can make it a game. For example, you can create a 30-day hotwife challenge with a hierarchy of dares that must be completed each day. Alternatively, you can write down dares on pieces of paper and draw a different challenge each day or week to add randomness. You can also check out hotwife captions for inspiration or create a custom game of hotwife truth or dare – anything you’d like! Make it a game that works with your schedules at your desired frequency – is hotwifing something you want to try now and again, or do you want it to be a staple of your sexual lifestyle?
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40 Hotwife Challenges and Dares
Without further ado, here are 40 hotwife challenges and dares listed with increasing levels of intensity. Enjoy!
Mild Hotwife Challenges
These “entry level” challenges allow you to explore the world of hotwifing without committing to meeting other guys… yet. For some couples, these might be enough to satisfy the fantasy; while for others, they could serve as primers for what’s to come.
1. Watch Hotwife Porn
Porn can serve as an excellent introduction to hotwife for both the stag and the hotwife-to-be. Get on popular porn sites and look up amateur hotwife and related videos. Porn can serve as inspiration and help you identify and agree on the scenarios you both find hot.
2. Pick Guys on Dating Sites
Browse guys on Tinder and other dating sites and pick out the ones you’re interested in. This is a fun exercise for dipping your toes in the water while keeping things a fantasy for now – you don’t need to contact any guys, just look and discuss what you’d like to do with them!
3. Talk About Friends and Coworkers
Hotwives and their stags can talk about friends and coworkers she’d like to fuck. Again, this is just fantasy for now – and of course, you’ll want to consider all pros and cons before you actually invite a friend into your bedroom. Some couples prefer to keep their sex lives private from those they know. In any event, you can make a list of the guys you already know who she thinks would be a good lay, and why, then talk about what she’d like to do with them and what her stag would like to see her do with them.
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4. Read Hotwife Stories
There’s no shortage of hotwife stories online – just search for them in your favorite search engine to find both fiction and nonfiction versions. You can read hotwife erotica to one another while you’re in your bedroom, or while giving a handjob or fingering. Like porn, hotwife stories can help you discover hot scenarios you’re both into – and scenarios you want to avoid.
5. Send Teasing Texts
Hotwives to-be can send teasing texts to their stags. For example, “Hey, I’m at the bar, and there is this hot guy looking at me. I bet he has a big cock and I’m thinking about sucking it.” Stags can reciprocate: “Ooh, that’s hot… what does he look like?” Texts can be inspired by real-life, real-time events, or they can be pure roleplay fantasy for now. The idea is to simulate hotwife scenarios without actually following through.
6. Pick Out Hot Men in Public
When you’re out with your partner, be on the lookout for hot guys in public. Share the guys with each other (without being obvious) and discuss what you’d like to do with them, what you think they look like naked, whether you think they’d be good in bed, etc.
7. Talk About Hotwifing While Having Sex
Discuss your favorite hotwife fantasies while having sex, giving a handjob, or fingering your partner. You can even create a hotwife bucket list together. The idea is to add the element of physical pleasure to the fantasy without the need to follow through. Chances are, both partners will have amazing orgasms while their minds are stimulated along with their naughty bits. An alternative is to have the hotwife recount some of her experiences with ex-lovers while having sex.
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8. Simulate a Hotwife Experience
Use a dildo or penis sleeve/extender to simulate a bull during sex. The hotwife can suck and fuck the “other” man while her stag watches or joins in. This is a great way to imagine the fantasy without needing to bring another guy into the equation.
9. Roleplay in Public
Set up a hotwife “date” where the stag poses as a bull. Meet at a restaurant or bar and pretend you do not know one another – that you’re on your first date. The stag might dress differently than normal and concoct a background story about himself to excite his hotwife. Then, take the date back to a hotel and use a penis sleeve/extender to simulate having sex with a different man. It’s also a good idea to try positions and sexual acts you don’t normally do in your own bedroom.
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10. Wear a Sexy Outfit
The stag can pick out (or better yet, buy) a sexy outfit for his hotwife to wear out in public. She can go pantiless and braless to take the sexiness to a new level!
11. Flash Another Man
Continuing with the pantiless, braless, sexy outfit motif, the hotwife can flash another man. Be sure to do this in a safe and legal environment (no one wants to get arrested for their hotwife adventures!). Another twist on this is to have her take her panties off and give them to another man.
12. Wear a Hotwife Anklet
For those in the lifestyle, an anklet is a universal sign indicating that a woman is a hotwife. Of course, that doesn’t mean potential bulls are going to approach you (unless you’re in an environment where such behavior is encouraged), but it adds an element of sexy fun when the hotwife and stag know why she is wearing it. You can even find anklets that read “hotwife” and related phrases online.
13. Flirt with Other Guys
Go out on the town and openly flirt with other guys, with or without your stag. Or have a girl’s night out where you flirt with other men. Another fun take on this is to dress hot and sexy and go to a club or bar. The hotwife can sit at the bar while her stag stays back at a table or booth so he can watch as guys hit on her, buy her drinks, or dance with her. The stag and hotwife can communicate via texts about which guys they like and would consider taking to the bedroom if they were ready to make their fantasy a reality.
14. Dance with Other Men
Go out to a club – or even a singles bar – and dance with other men. The stag can come along to watch or stay at home. The hotwife can keep in communication with him via text, send selfies (perhaps of her sitting on another man’s lap or with her arms around another man), or just tell him about her evening when she gets home.
15. Show Off to Hubby’s Friends
If the stag has friends over for the big game, the hotwife can dress up in one of her sluttiest outfits and make several appearances throughout the event, showing off to the stag’s buddies without crossing the line. After, discuss their reactions!
16. Get a Guy’s Phone Number, Email, or Snap
The stag can challenge his hotwife to get another man’s phone number, email, or Snap – at work, at the grocery, at the park, or out on the town. It should be someone she might be interested in having sex with, but it doesn’t necessarily need to be someone she’ll play with later.
17. Chat with Other Men Online
Join online chat rooms, forums, or subreddits and have steamy chats with other men online. Tell them you’re a hotwife and you’re interested in finding guys to play with. Talk about the things you would do together if you ever met. Both the stag and hotwife can participate in online chats!
18. Get Sexy Boutique Photos
The stag can pay for his hotwife to get sexy boutique photos taken by a male photographer. You should respect the professional setting, but wearing sexy lingerie or getting nude in front of another man can play into your fantasy .
19. Lock the Stag in a Cock Cage
If you want to include chastity play as part of your hotwife fantasy, the hotwife can lock her man up in a chastity cage. This can be done at any time throughout the process.
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20. Ask a Guy to Apply Suntan Lotion
Go to the beach or the pool and ask another guy to help you with your suntan lotion. This begins taking things to a new level without engaging in sex, and the hotwife will love having another man’s hands on her (and her stag will love watching).
21. Have Phone Sex, Cam Sex, or Sext with a Guy
Sending nudes to other men – and getting nudes and dick pics in return – can be a great way to experience the hotwife fantasy without meeting anyone in person. Or, take it up a notch by having phone sex or cam sex with another guy – with or without the stag watching or participating.
22. Talk on the Phone with a Guy During Sex
The hotwife can talk to another man on the phone while she masturbates, has sex with her stag, or while her stag goes down on her. This is a great way to introduce another man to the equation without actually having sex with him – but without missing out on the pleasure!
23. The Classic Pizza Dare
An oldie but goodie – order a pizza and answer the door in lingerie, a towel, topless, or nude. Make sure to stay on the right side of legal, and don’t surprise anyone who might not want to see it. One good option is to have the stag answer the door and explain that he’d like to show his wife off if the delivery man is interested.
24. Go on a Date
Begin taking things to the next level by going on a date with another man – but no fucking yet. The stag and hotwife can set the date up together, and the stag can either join or stay at home. As always, stay safe when meeting new men for the first time.
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25. Kiss Another Man
During or at the end of the date, the hotwife can kiss the other man. It’s not sex, but it’s a step in the right direction!
26. Touch Another Man
The hotwife can also rub another man’s cock through his pants, a great prelude to the real thing….
27. Take a Selfie with Another Cock
Most men won’t need much convincing for this. Have the hotwife go out and get a selfie of her with another man’s dick. She doesn’t even need to touch it – she just needs to get the pic and send it to her stag!
Wild Hotwife Challenges & Dares
This final set of hotwife challenges and dares takes hotwifing from fantasy to reality. As a reminder, always make sure all parties are comfortable before you go any further, and have fun!
28. Compare Cocks
Meet with a bull and stag, and have them both present their cocks. Compare sizes for the hotwife’s enjoyment.
29. Go to a Swinger’s Club or Hotel Takeover
Visit a swinger’s club or hotel takeover event (you can find them by searching online or via sites like Fetlife). It’s up to you whether you play with a new guy or just take in the atmosphere.
30. Play Truth or Dare
Play truth or dare with your stag and another guy. This can be a great way to begin dipping your toes in the water, especially if you clearly communicate any limits beforehand.
31. Get a Sensual Massage
Get a sensual massage from another man (or a four-hand massage from your stag and another guy). The hotwife will enjoy being touched all over, and you can decide how far it goes when the massage is over.
32. Give Another Man a Handjob
Find a great guy you want to play with and give him a handjob. Up to you whether the stag watches.
33. Give Another Man a Blowjob
Same as above – but this time with oral sex!
34. Have Sex with Another Man (While Stag Watches)
Pretty self-explanatory… it’s time to get to the real deal!
35. Have Sex with Another Man (without Stag)
This time, the hotwife is flying solo… or at least, without her stag.
36. Have a Threesome with Bull and Stag
Let the stag in on the fun and have both men cum on you in your favorite spot. Try a double-barrelled blowjob, frotting, and double penetration, if you’d like!
37. Go for a Drive
Have your stag drive you and your bull around while you play in the backseat.
38. Sloppy Seconds
Have sex with your stag after fucking your bull so he can feel his cum in you. Tell him about your night and all the naughty things you did with your bull. Alternatively, you can give your stag a handjob or blowjob while you tell him about your hotwife exploits. This is when the stag gets to “reclaim” his hotwife!
39. Take a Video
Have your bull take a video of you fucking and sucking him, then share it with your stag. You can watch it together the next time you have sex!
40. Blindfold Surprise
Have the stag pick out a man for you. He can blindfold you (or even tie you to the bed) and invite the man to your bedroom or hotel room. Then, you will suck and fuck the man without ever knowing who he is or what he looks like.
Hotwifing is more common than many realize, and even though it involves the woman having sex with other men, it can be a fantastic bonding experience for adventurous couples who want to spice up the bedroom. Use these ideas as inspiration for your own hotwife challenges and make it an adventure!
