If you are just starting out in the world of chastity play, and your eagerness has led to more exploration in the niche, you have probably come across the chastity slave dynamic. Submission and giving up control can be enticing and arousing. Similar to the slave dynamic of BDSM, it amplifies the already intense sexual desires you may have.
However, the chastity slave dynamic can be a little overwhelming at first, whether you’re the slave or the keyholder, and you might not know where to start – or, you might have already dipped your toes into the water and you’re seeking new ways to enhance the experience. To that end, the following discusses what a chastity slave is and introduces 31 chastity slave ideas for teasing and denial, punishment, service and pleasure.
What is a Chastity Slave?
When you decide to become a chastity slave, you are putting full control over orgasms and your sexual being into the hands of your keyholder. You make a commitment to obey and please at will. It is tantalizing and exciting to give up such freedoms and can really intensify any sexual encounter you may have.
There are different parts to being a femdom chastity slave, and you need to be compliant in all categories to be the perfect slave. Whether you are a male chastity slave or a female chastity slave, the idea is to please your keyholder, and no matter the request, it must be fulfilled. Of course, with every sexual niche you explore, full consent and understanding need to be laid out prior to starting.
Teasing and Denial
A significant part of chastity play and chastity devices is teasing and denial while wearing the chastity cage. The keyholder can also opt to release her slave from the chastity device for teasing, then put his cock cage back on without allowing him to cum.
1. Edging
A form of orgasm denial in which the keyholder brings the slave to the point of near-orgasm then stops. This can happen multiple times for any length of time the keyholder wants. The keyholder can also choose to ruin the orgasm, which is allowing the slave to cum without stimulation so they don’t get full satisfaction.
2. Grinding
The keyholder can simulate sex without insertion and without allowing the slave to orgasm.
3. Massage
A more intimate sexual teasing in which the keyholder touches the slave’s entire body, arousing him with pleasure, but doesn’t allow him to orgasm.
4. Watching porn
Watching porn while in chastity is a form of teasing. The imagery of others engaging in sexual acts but not being able to be pleasured can prove simultaneously frustrating and exciting.
5. All-day stimulation
Stimulating the slave briefly throughout the day is a fantastic way to tease them. The keyholder can build up the pressure until they allow release.
6. Dirty talk and sexy outfits
Teasing can also be as simple as dirty talk and sexy outfits. The keyholder can spend hours or days tantalizing the slave with sexy comments.
7. Supervised cleaning
It’s important to keep the slave and his cock cage clean, but the keyholder can supervise cleanings to ensure proper hygiene without allowing orgasm.
8. Giving the key “away”
One way to tease a chastity slave is for the keyholder to give the key to one of her friends. The slave will know the friend knows he is locked up, which can be humiliating. Or, the keyholder might not tell him which friend she gave it to. That can lend a sense of desperation since the slave knows he can only be unlocked if his partner gets the key from her friend.
9. Key hide-and-seek
The keyholder can hide the key somewhere and tell her slave to find it to be let out of his cage. In a delightfully sinister twist, the keyholder can give the slave a time limit: if he finds the key in time, she’ll let him out to orgasm. If he doesn’t find it in time, she adds more hours (or days) to his lockup. Brutal!
Punishment
If the slave succumbs to temptation during the teasing process and orgasms without permission, the keyholder has the control to punish him. These punishments can involve being handcuffed, spankings, or longer time spent in the chastity cage. Of course, all punishments should have been discussed prior to the agreement and should all be consensual.
10. Ruined orgams
Ruined orgasms are a good way to punish a chastity slave if they have misbehaved. The keyholder is denying them the satisfaction of feeling a cum. Ruined orgasms are perfect for chastity slave training.
11. Public humiliation
Public humiliation can be used to teach the chastity slave who is boss and remind them of their misdeeds. Having other people watch the punishment adds to the humiliation. There are several Reddit subreddits where consenting couples can post pictures and videos of their slaves in chastity.
12. Pain play
Pain play is common in punishment. Spanking, cock and ball torture, ballbusting, wax play and whipping are all good ways to properly punish a chastity slave who has disobeyed.
13. Cuckolding
Cuckolding is a form of punishment where the chastity slave watches their keyholder pleasure another person, freely and willingly. It can also be used as a form of teasing depending on different chastity slave’s preferences.
14. Orgasm denial
Orgasm denial can be a form of teasing and punishment. Not letting a chastity slave cum at all should show them who is in control.
15. Cum eating
Keyholders can make slaves eat their own cum, especially after a ruined orgasm. Cum eating can also come into play in cuckolding and forced bi scenarios, such as making the slave eat a creampie or otherwise lick another man’s cum.
16. Sissification
Sissification is when the slave dresses as a female, including lingerie, makeup and wigs. Keyholders can employ sissification as a form of humiliation punishment.
17. Add more time to “lockup”
Another common punishment is for the keyholder to add additional time to the slave’s lockup period, either based on his misdeeds or purely on her whim.
Service
Service is a part of the chastity slave world that is important to the keyholder. They want to see the commitment of their chastity slave, and of course, slaves want to make their keyholders happy.
18. Housework
Housework is number one in this category. Keyholders can task their slaves with house cleaning, dishes, laundry and other chores. Even better, they can have their slaves complete the chores totally nude, safe for their cock cages.
19. Errands
“Oh, errand boy!” The keyholder can have her chastity slave run all her errands for her, so she can sit back and relax – or focus on her pleasure while he’s out there doing the work.
20. Serving others
If you’re hosting a party with like-minded individuals, the keyholder could have the slave serve attendees. That could mean serving them food and drinks or serving their sexual needs at the keyholder’s direction. This type of service can come into play during CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male) parties. “Forced” bi scenarios also come to mind.
21. Watching the keyholder masturbate
Keyholders can force their chastity slaves to watch them masturbate, adding to their pent-up frustration.
22. Massage and foot worship
Having the slave massage the keyholder is a popular service task. The slave can give the keyholder a full body massage, a butt massage or focus on her feet (such as with a chastity foot slave). The massage could include not only hand massage, but also massage using the tongue and lips.
23. Oral sex
The keyholder can order her slave to perform oral sex; he’ll be excited yet constrained by his cage as he brings his keyholder to orgasm.
24. Workouts/exercise
Many keyholders like their slaves to keep in tip-top shape. Keyholders can “force” their slaves to complete workouts, whether cardio, yoga or something else. Even better, they can have them work out for them wearing nothing but their cages!
25. Findomme (financial domination)
The keyholder can have her slave buy her something: a new outfit, a new toy, anything she’d like!
Pleasure
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with keyholders pleasing their chastity slaves! Pleasure can be given as a reward or simply because the keyholder wants to offer it, especially with gentle dommes. It’s still important that the slave appreciates whatever their keyholder does to please them!
26. Vibrator orgasm
A vibrator placed on the chastity cage can reverberate throughout the cock, allowing the chastity slave to orgasm without escaping his cage.
27. Prostate orgasm
It is said the prostate is the male G-spot, and prostate orgasms can be intense – and, with practice, keyholders might be able to bring their slaves to a hands-free orgasm through prostate stimulation. Pegging and strap-ons (below) can help, but a finger will do in a pinch!
28. Pegging, strap-ons and anal plugs
Pegging can be used as a form of pleasure. As stated before, the make prostate is akin to a female G-spot. Pegging can lead to an intense, satisfying orgasm for a chastity slave. You can use a standard dildo or vibrator, or opt for a strap-on. Alternatively, the keyholder could force the slave to wear an anal plug. Note that pegging can also be considered a form of punishment – there is often an overlap between punishment and pleasure!
29. Oral sex
Oral sex is also a great way for the keyholder to show how much they appreciate their chastity slave being so well behaved.
30. Sounding
Urethral sounds and plugs can be inserted for pleasure, pain and/or punishment – maybe all at once! Be sure to start slow with sounds and plugs. Don’t go too big or too deep at once.
31. Sweet release!
Finally, the keyholder can reward a good chastity slave by letting him free and allowing him to cum. This could be once or multiple times. It is all up to the discretion of the keyholder, of course!
