What it is & why you should lock the cock the entire month of October
Locktober challenges men to lock their penises in a chastity cage for the entire month of October. Though some readers are certainly familiar with the chastity lifestyle, the uninitiated might wonder why a guy would lock his cock up or why their partner might want them to. This post has something for both crowds: newbies can learn more about how Locktober works, and chastity pros can discover some new challenges, games and rules to make this Locktober spicier than a hot pumpkin ale.
What is Locktober?
As stated, Locktober is a 31-day challenge in which men lock their penises in a chastity cage. Why would a guy agree to do this? Why would their partner want to do it? Several potential reasons, including:
Heightened sexual frustration
A chastity cage keeps a man from having sex, masturbating, and otherwise deriving any pleasure from direct contact. That can increase frustration so that, when the cage finally comes off, the release is so much more intense.
Read: How to Put on a Chastity Cage
Submissive leanings
Chastity cages are often incorporated into domme/sub relationships, whether in-person or online. A dominant woman might lock up a submissive man to keep him under her control. She might enjoy teasing him and torturing him, especially if she is a mistress or they’re in a female-led relationship.
In cuckold relationships, she might enjoy having her man locked up while she plays with another man (her bull). The submissive man might derive pleasure from orgasm denial and serving his partner.
Read: Top 10 Fetish Tests to Discover Your Kinks
That doesn’t mean you need to be part of a couple to participate in Locktober – if you don’t have (or want) a partner, you can go solo and do Locktober entirely on your own. In addition, there are plenty of Locktober keyholding services if you want the feeling of being under someone’s control but not everything else that comes with a relationship.
Of course, chastity play can be a wonderful experience for couples in BDSM relationships – or couples that just want to try something new – to explore their sexuality and dip their toes into power dynamics.
You can engage in chastity play any time of year, but Locktober provides a fun, themed event to explore chastity with a defined start and end date. It seems fitting that Locktober ends at midnight on Halloween, the perfect time to unleash pent-up carnal desires!
Locktober Rules
There is only one real rule for Locktober: you must remain locked in your cage for the entire month.
That said, you’re free (and encouraged) to make up your own rules to make Locktober personalized and fun for you and (if applicable) your partner.
Read: Chastity Training 101
For example, you can decide whether “remaining caged” means you can never remove your chastity device, or if it means you must wear it for a certain period of time each day.
You can also come up with rules you must follow in order to earn rewards – either throughout the month, or one big reward at the end when the cage comes off.
For example, if you’re in a committed relationship, you might work with your partner to establish rules such as:
- You must complete household chores daily
- You must sexually please your partner three times weekly
- You must give your partner a massage every Friday
- You must work out four times per week
If keeping the cage on for the entire month seems like it’s too much, you could create a rule that allows you to take it off to receive a reward once each week – provided you’ve followed the other rules.
Truly, you can make any rules you’d like!
How to Find a Locktober Keyholder
A keyholder is exactly as it sounds – a person who keeps the key to your chastity cage, so you cannot cheat and let yourself out. If you’re in a committed relationship, your partner is likely your keyholder, but if you’re not, you can find a keyholder on BDSM community sites or hire a professional keyholder (in most cases, you mail your key for safekeeping, but some do it through combination locks or the Cellmate).
Of course, you can be your own keyholder, but that requires self-discipline. What’s the fun in that?
If you don’t have a keyholder in mind for Locktober, check out these 10 places to find a keyholder.
How to be a Locktober Keyholder
If you’re the keyholding partner, follow these tips to make Locktober even more fun for you and your man!
- Tease, tease, tease: Wear the key on a necklace around your neck, on a bracelet, anywhere it’s always visible. Make references to the key and tease your man about when you might use it, what it’s for, or say you might throw it away because you don’t really have a use for it anyway!
- More teasing: Physically tease your man. Lick around his cage. Fondle his balls. Make him hard in his cage to build up his sexual frustration. Dress sexy and make sure he notices. Have fun with it!
- Make him serve you: Just because he can’t get off doesn’t mean you can’t. In fact, now is the perfect time to have him massage you, clean the house, sexually please you, or even watch you (or stay at home) while you enjoy another man.
- Seek connection: An often-overlooked perk of a chastity cage is that, since your man can’t cum, he can focus on other aspects of your relationship. Communication, conversation, and cuddling can help you deepen your bonds and explore new avenues.
Locktober Challenges, Tasks and Games
Locktober should be fun for both the keyholder and her chaste man (or his chaste man – Locktober is for gay couples, too!). That said, it should also be a bit frustrating for the guy whose cock is locked.
Read: 10 Best Chastity Games to Play with Your Partner
A major part of chastity play is the idea that the man will be humbled and learn to serve – even worship – his keyholder. After the initial frustration with being unable to achieve an erection (get hard) or orgasm (cum), the anticipation builds until the man is desperate. He will likely become more intimate and attentive, willing to do anything to please his keyholder with the hopes that she will unlock him at the end of the month.
With that in mind, here are some Locktober challenges, tasks and games you can consider to fill your calendar (more on Locktober calendars below).
Challenges
Challenges have consequences. If the locked man successfully completes a challenge, he can be rewarded (this could be anything from a temporary unlock to agreeing to making him cum in his chastity cage – or simply allowing him to enjoy a non-sexual activity, such as a massage).
Read: 31 Chastity Slave Ideas
If he fails, he can be punished (this could be adding extra days, making him do chores or complete another tasks, unlocking him and edging him before putting the cage back on, or even physical punishment à la BDSM).
Here are some challenges to consider:
- Have the locked man orally please his keyholder. He must make her cum within a certain amount of time
- Challenge the locked man to improve himself in some way: workout daily, read a book by the end of October – anything you want!
- Have the locked man remain completely naked for a set time – 24 hours, 48 hours, whatever the keyholder deems. The keyholder might take advantage of a day off to watch her sub perform household chores in the buff, for example
- Create a point system in which the chaste man scores when he completes certain tasks. His challenge is to score enough points to earn his freedom by Halloween!
- If you’re into the idea of hotwifing or cuckolding, the caged man can be challenged with finding the perfect man for the keyholder to enjoy while he’s stuck in his cage
Games
You can turn any game into a Locktober game with a bit of creativity. Here are some ideas to spark inspiration.
Read: Men aren’t the only ones who can get locked up. Check out our guide to female chastity belts!
- Assign tasks to numbers and roll the dice to see what the chaste man has to do. You can alternatively draw tasks from a hat or use a wheel of misfortune
- Create a quiz where the chaste man must answer questions about his keyholder. When he’s done, the keyholder can score the quiz and punish or reward him based on the results
- Play a strip game (poker, a board game, beer pong, whatever you like) to tease the locked male – how frustrating it will be when you’re both naked and he can’t do anything but please you!
- Hide the key and have him search high and low for it. If he finds it within a certain time, he gets a reward. If he doesn’t, he gets punished!
- Play your own game of “would you rather” in which the locked man must choose between an undesirable task or staying locked up
Tasks
When it comes to Locktober tasks, anything is on the table – well, anything the keyholder desires, that is! Teasing is a huge part of chastity play, so be sure to schedule intense teasing sessions to make him go wild with desire (and make him pent up frustration).
Read: 21 Femdom Humiliation Ideas
Obedience, subservience, and caring for the keyholder are also part of chastity play, so make sure you also include tasks just for her. Here are a few ideas, but don’t limit yourself to these!
- Give the keyholder a massage
- Please the keyholder orally
- The keyholder uses a strap on on him or pegs him
- He pleases the keyholder with sex toys
- Facesitting
- Feminization/sissification: Have him dress up as a woman – makeup, nails, hair and all!
- Ballbusting and CBT (cock and ball torture): Venture into BDSM with a little pain and punishment
- Household chores (nude)
- Workout (nude)
- Cook and serve dinner (nude)
- The keyholder can give him a blowjob through his cage (chastity blowjob)
- Write an erotic story; read it to the keyholder while on his knees
- Paint the keyholder’s nails
- Unlock him and edge him, but don’t let him climax, then lock him back up
- Try to make him cum in his cage (a vibrator on the cage, prostate massage, or butt plug might help!)
- The keyholder can parade around in sexy outfits… and he can only watch
- The keyholder can have her sub pose for pictures with his chastity cage
- The keyholder can masturbate in front of him while he can only watch
- Have him suck the keyholder’s toes and worship her feet
- Make him watch porn with the keyholder… but no touching his cock!
- Have him suck a dildo (or a real dick)
- Parade him around – nude and caged – in front of your friends
- Have him go outdoors nude (in a safe area, of course)
- Have him take pictures of him wearing his cage at work, at the gym, or anywhere else (she can send him sexy pics to tease him throughout the day, too)
- Read chastity captions together
- The keyholder can talk dirty to him and tell him how much fun they could have if only he wasn’t locked up (be detailed to get him revved up)
- Truly, anything else the keyholder comes up with!
Locktober Calendar
Once you have an idea of the keyholder’s Locktober rules and the types of challenges, games and tasks you want to try, you can create a Locktober calendar to keep things exciting for both the keyholder and the locked man for the entire month of October.
Read: Can Chastity Shrink Your Penis?
Here are some tips:
- Personalize your calendar to satisfy the keyholder (and the chaste male, if the keyholder chooses)
- Include a mix of sexual and denial activities as well as submissive service activities
- You’re not limited to the calendar you create – if another idea comes to mind along the way, go with it! You can also take advantage of every opportunity to direct and tease
Here are two Locktober calendars you can download. The first is pre-filled with some of our ideas. You can use it as-is or customize it to your liking. The second is a blank calendar you can fill in however you’d like!
Locktober Tips
Follow these tips to make the experience enjoyable for both partners.
- Keep it clean. The sub should wash his penis at every shower. Every couple of days, the keyholder should unlock him for a thorough cleaning. Make it part of your play. Either the keyholder can wash him or she can watch him wash himself – either way, this is only for hygiene. He’s not allowed to cum and gets locked up right after he’s cleaned!
- Work with your partner. Discuss what you both want out of the Locktober experience and incorporate it into your play all month long. Set rules and expectations – and address any potential concerns – ahead of time
- Have an emergency plan. Though some might disagree with this, we feel the locked male needs to have an emergency escape plan in the event he needs to remove the cage. If you don’t want to have an accessible key, you can use plastic locks with serial numbers. Take a picture to verify that it hasn’t been removed, and he can cut the lock in an emergency
Read: The Ultimate Guide to Long-Term and Permanent Chastity
- Be consistent. Keep things interesting and constantly remind him about his status. While it’s OK to ignore him occasionally as part of the fun, the keyholder and the chaste male must be engaged to get the most out of chastity play
- Choose the right cage. This is one of the most important tips. Chastity cages come in all shapes, sizes, and quality. Choose a high-quality cage (trust us, the cheap stuff can break, which can be dangerous). Follow measurement guidelines and find a cage that fits. If you’re really into it, you can order a custom chastity cage (and we recommend this – though they are a little pricey and take a while to make and arrive). Read more on choosing the best chastity cage for Locktober below
Best Locktober Chastity Cages
Though you can buy chastity cages for Locktober from many different providers, here are a few of our favorite options, selected for popularity and quality.
Read: What is a Chastity Cage?
1. CB-X
These popular polycarbonate cock cages come in various sizes, so you’re sure to find the perfect cage.
2. Oxy Shop
Whether you’re a beginner or an experienced kinkster, you’ll find a great selection of quality chastity cages here. Oxy also has a full line of BDSM, CBT and ballbusting products to amplify your play.
One of the most popular chastity cages of all time, Locked In Lust’s “The Vice” is a great cage for beginners and experienced chaste men alike.
4. Holy Trainer
Another all-time favorite, the Holy Trainer comes in multiple versions and is available in many different colors, so you’re sure to find the perfect cage for your member.
5. Mature Metal
Lock him up right with these stainless steel chastity cages from Mature Metal – each customized to your preferences.
Wait! Don’t lock it up until you’ve read our tips for finding the perfect cage (plus even more places to buy chastity cages). Lean more
Locktober Resources
Looking for more Locktober ideas, captions, memes, stories and more? Check out these resources.
Locktober captions, memes, gifs and pics
Find Locktober captions on Cuckold Club (2022 and 2021) and on Sex.com.
You can also find general chastity captions at:
Find Locktober memes on Memes Monkey and iFunny.
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Locktober stories
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With proper planning, a bit of creativity, and adventurous spirit, Locktober can be a fun and rewarding experience for both partners – especially when he finally gets uncaged on Halloween night! Of course, that’s only if you’re not also participating in No Nut November!
