If you’re a short-term chastity pro and you’re considering long-term or even permanent chastity, it’s best to understand what you’re getting into before you agree to lock the cock. Committing to long-term chastity requires proper planning to ensure a positive experience for both the locked man and his keyholder. From penis safety and cleaning regimens to open communication and finding the right cage, you’ll find everything you need to know in our ultimate guide to long-term and permanent male chastity.
Long-term VS permanent chastity: What’s the difference?
With long-term chastity, the chastity device is worn for an extended period of time. The amount of time is subjective and can differ between each man and their keyholder. Whether a few hours at a time, a few days or even a few weeks, long-term male chastity does not mean 24/7 forever.
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When it comes to permanent chastity, the idea is to wear the cage 24/7. However, it’s important to note that “permanent” doesn’t mean the cage never comes off. There are exceptions to the rule, and it’s acceptable to remove the cage when:
1. The area needs to be clean, which the keyholder can do to prevent the cage wearer from even touching their cock
2. If there is a need for any medical exam or any form of medical emergency that requires the cage to be removed
3. If the keyholder decides they want to play, which is often way less frequent with permanent chastity than long-term chastity
4. If it’s necessary to remove the cage for travel; however, it’s easy to get around this by using a non-metal cage and a plastic chastity lock
5. If the keyholder gives permission to remove the cage for certain lifestyle pursuits, such as sporting events and other activities
The difference between long-term and permanent chastity wear also seems to be determined by the relationship you are in. Femdom relationships seem to have stricter rules than married couples participating in the lifestyle, but it is important to recognize that it is very subjective. “Permanent” could mean something slightly different for each individual.
Personal experiences and stories
We talked to a few individuals who defined what “permanent chastity” means to them. One Reddit user went on to describe his situation:
“As far as ‘permanent’ – again a bit of a flexible definition. If you go the letter of the law the keyholder would NEVER let them out for any reason (barring maybe something major medical)… others say permanent means “you’re always locked up unless the keyholder takes you out to play or for hygiene, and then locked right back up.” – Little951
Another stated:
“I don’t use ‘permanent’ as a descriptor myself, but I’d be less uncomfortable for it being used where chastity is the default state of being. Where time out of the cage is the exception and significantly shorter than the locked times.” – LockedNick
And another had a different idea of “permanent”:
“In my own situation, my wife and I call it permanent because I am caged all the time… except for travel or medical visits. Also, I do a lot of road cycling in the warm weather, and for longer rides, I have permission to be unlocked, so I don’t get chafed or otherwise damaged.”
– TomVanAllen
It seems to be something that the chastity wearer and their keyholder determine. Although the exact definition means all the time and forever, life happens, and sometimes it is just not plausible to “permanently” have the cage on at all times.
No matter your definition, both long-term and permanent chastity offer exciting opportunities for any couple in any type of arrangement: married couples dabbling in the lifestyle, gay couples experimenting with something new, couples in femdom or female-led relationships who enjoy sissy play and those who participate in BDSM play.
10 long-term and permanent chastity tips
Whether you’re ready to take the leap into long-term chastity or you’re ready for permanent chastity, get the most out of your experience – and stay safe – with these ten tips.
1. Conduct extensive research and consult a pro
This is probably one of the more important parts of the chastity lifestyle. Anything new you want to explore should always be thoroughly researched, and the chastity lifestyle is no different. Read every article you can, really dive deep. Get on forums and gain knowledge from people in the lifestyle. You really need to understand all the aspects of the niche before making a proper decision.
Also, it might be a good idea to speak to a pro who has been in the chastity world for a while. Some good people can be men who have lived the lifestyle for years or a femdom who has had control over many male chastity wearers. There is also a plethora of forums you can access and get information and advice from.
2. Agree to terms
Keyholders and wearers should have an agreement in place, whether informal (in the case of husbands and wives) or formal (long-distance, professional keyholders, etc.). This agreement should outline the lockup duration, when the male gets unlocked, and why. Upfront communication and trust are critical!
There are great websites that help construct contracts between the chastity wearer and the keyholder. These contracts are detailed and allow for the opportunity to break chastity wear if absolutely necessary. Here are some of the best contracts we have found.
3. Find the right cage
It’s best to experiment with different cages until you find the perfect fit before committing to long-term chastity. Keep in mind not only the fit and comfort when you’re around the house but also at work, at the gym, etc. If you run marathons, you’ll probably want a lightweight, yet strong cage, for example.
Investing in a custom chastity cage is likely the best option for many men and couples. Pay attention to the base ring, too, because you don’t want it to restrict the testicles. Make sure you can use the restroom without spraying everywhere as well – you certainly don’t want to go to office meetings with wet pants. Avoid spiked chastity cages! They can cause injury if used long-term.
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Do not rush this step – it’s OK to take your time to find the perfect cage before you commit. Given the fact there are numerous kinds of cages to choose from, it is always important to try a few different ones, that way you know for sure what works best for you!
4. Regular and proper cleaning
One of the most important aspects of chastity wear is hygiene. It is absolutely crucial that you keep the area well maintained and clean. Open cages might make it possible to clean without removal, but even then, it’s a good idea to remove them for cleaning from time to time.
Closed cages need to be removed for cleaning and proper hygiene twice a week minimum. Health and safety are paramount. Discuss ways to maintain chastity during cleaning and allow it to play into the chastity play itself. Things like supervised cleaning sessions can maintain control and get the job done. Having the keyholder perform the cleaning is another great way to keep the rules in place and maintain the lifestyle.
5. Keep a spare or emergency key
Though part of the allure is not having control over cage removal, emergency situations could necessitate cage removal. A spare key should be kept somewhere so the wearer can access it if absolutely needed. Discuss ways the keyholder can make sure the locked man isn’t accessing the key without permission. Here are some ideas to discuss:
- Freeze the key in a cup of water and place it in the freezer. This makes the key harder to get to but allows for access if there is an emergency. All you need to do is place it in boiling water.
- Buying a small safe or box that has a combination lock can be useful. In case of emergency, the keyholder may give you the code and then change it later.
- They also make app-controlled lockboxes, so if the keyholder lives in a different city, they may unlock the box from their phone in case of an emergency.
- Some at-home ideas include putting the key in an envelope and having the keyholder write their name on the seal and then close the envelope. If the writing is messed up, the keyholder will know it was tampered with and will proceed with punishment as they see fit. This can also be done with tape around the key teeth and writing on the tape – a simple way to tell things have been messed with.
6. Achieve regular erections to maintain penis health and avoid shrinkage
Shrinkage is a common concern with long-term and permanent chastity play. Research has shown that a chastity cage itself does not cause your dick to shrink, but there are other factors that come into play that can cause shrinkage. Without regular erections, the muscles and tendons in the cock will become weak, which eventually leads to the cock becoming shorter in length.
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However, it is easy to combat this with a plan for regular erections, even if the keyholder doesn’t allow the man to orgasm. One strategy is to allow an erection at each cleaning, thereby killing two birds with one stone.
7. Recognize the nature of the male anatomy
It is important to remember that the male anatomy seems to have a mind of its own, and involuntarily erections are common. This is especially true when men sleep (who hasn’t awakened with morning wood?), which is good for penis health and sometimes due to the bladder putting pressure on the prostate.
This sort of erection isn’t easily controlled, and it is important to consider alternatives to reduce any pain that might occur while this happens. Having the cage wearer put on a larger cage for bedtime could help resolve the issue, or the keyholder could allow him to not sleep with a cage at all (though that’s not in the spirit of a permanent chastity cage). You can also consider more flexible cages that will allow some growth.
8. Prepare for travel
If the male frequently travels for business, work, leisure, etc., it’s a good idea to get a plastic lock that’s undetectable by airport metal detectors. These locks are numbered so the keyholder can verify that the man has remained locked throughout his travels. It is also recommended you have a non-metal cage or use a separate, flexible and undetectable cock cage for travel.
If you go with a metal lock instead, you risk being detained, not allowed to board the flight and the public embarrassment that goes along with that.
9. Have an out
The idea of long-term and permanent chastity can be appealing in theory but not always in practice. Having an out that allows the male to end the agreement, whether they’re not comfortable, in pain, or they’re simply no longer into it, should be written in the contract and discussed.
Begging for release might be part of the play, so it might be a good idea to establish a safe word or phrase that lets the keyholder know the locked male is serious and needs to end their chastity.
10. Don’t forget to have fun
Whatever your dynamic – femdom, male slave, female-led relationship, solo play, etc. – don’t forget to have fun with long-term and permanent chastity. The keyholder can assign the male tasks. He can serve her. She can make him cum in his cock cage via a variety of methods. Chastity play should be fun, no matter how long he’s locked up.
